Daani Sanders: Sticks & Stones Won’t Break Her Bones But Names WILL Always Haunt Her
I hate terms like ‘R.I.P’ and ‘They’re in a better place now’ and ‘Now they’re an angel in heaven’. Its utter bullshit and no-one who actually knew the person who died (in this case the young girl from Sydney – Danni Sanders) actually gets comfort from these patronising statements. Unless they are really religious… but my guess is not many considering how many people are writing ‘die you f***ing c**ts’ on the memorial facebook page in response to rude comments.
Now I don’t belive that bullying alone resulted in Daani feeling so worthless that she deemed it necessary to end her own life, but it certainly contributed. It made me thankful for my blessed private school years where bullying only ever got to the extent of bitchiness between girls, which only lasted a few days and then we were all besties again. I remember a few years ago when a boy from our year died (NOT from suicide); the support that people gave his family and the extent of people who showed up at his funeral to honour him was overwhelming. But that was a private school in the country.
Daani’s friends and family have not had this support. They have had multitudes of stupid westies and lowlife scum writing insults on the poor girls memorial fb page.
Here is a message to all of you -
I don’t give a shit what she said, what she did or what reasons you think she deserved to be bullied about. The girl is dead.
- She won’t go to her formal.
- She won’t get a job she loves.
- Her father won’t walk her down the aisle.
- She won’t ever have a baby.
- She won’t ever see the world.
- Her mum will never again get to hug her little girl.
- She won’t ever fall in love.
- She won’t ever find those true friends you make OUT OF SCHOOL that you will have forever.
- Her sister will never be able to fight with her again over stupid things.
- Never again will anyone hear her laugh or see her smile.
- Never again will her family sit down for dinner at peace.
- Never again will those around her be the same.
I’ve always said that suicide is selfish and it is. But I honestly don’t think this girl was old or mature enough to fully comprehend her actions. When your young and depressed you can’t see the bigger picture. You don’t realise that things WILL get better. And you can’t see the love radiating all around you.
So once again I don’t give a SHIT what this girl did and I don’t care that her final actions have left a wake of destruction.
The girl has died and will never get to live.
YOU DO.
So why don’t you start doing a better job of it?
X
Well said!
couldnt have said it better myself
=( I would like to meet these ‘trolls’ to make them feel shame
The trolls have no need to feel shame because not all the trolls are selfish like me for example. I am creator of the page Reab Odep and he is a troll. Some trolls could of possibly known her for all you care the trolls do care if you read the Trolls United page on Facebook you would see.
Very well said. It brought tears to my eyes
Wow….perfectly put. let’s hope more young people read this and realise there is light at the end of the tunnel. so we dont lose anymore beautiful people who never see their own beautiful future.
thank you
x
I was with you until you dropped the “suicide is selfish” bullshit.
Well that is the beauty of an opinion.
Agreed.
Agreed
if you ask me its being selfish and i dont give a shit what you assholes think its immature and fucking selfish what she did fuck her mum and dad and sister have to pick up the pieces and have to deal with her stupidity for the rest of there life’s because she was being bulled big deal deal with it it happens everywhere no one cares
Dear me….
I can’t believe people like you exist
? Please elaborate.
I’m sure if you were bullied it would be different. Keep your rude ass comments to yourself
She wasnt bullied -__-” if i hear one more flipping person say that i will tear my hair out.
take it from someone who went to her school.
So – whose the odd one out here – huh? You – who “doesn’t care” enough to make this stupid comment – or all the others who feel really bad for her family and actually manage to show some maturity and compassion? Grow up.
Nicely put :0
its the people like you that kellyleemccarren is talking about. if you dont have something nice to say, dont say it at all. its people like you, with an attitude that doesnt care for anyone but yourself, that causes things like this to happen.
I was bullied at school to a point where I wanted to leave and went home crying everynight. When your 14 years old, you cant see past high school. It feels like its never going to end. I was just extremely lucky that the school I went to cared enough to change it.
Grow up and keep your petty immature opinions to yourself!
ps. imagine how you would feel reading comments like your own if it was your sister, or your best friend!
Don’t leave comments like that.
Your ignorant.
Exactly right Kelly…Facebook Needs To Take Them All Down…Those Who Have Contributed To The Bullying Should Spend Time Behind Bars More Time For Those Who Have No remorse Even After Her Death..They Should Be Publicly Shamed And Spend At Least Their Youth Behind Bars Knowing They Are Despised By The World…
You..you..your capitalization. Of everything! Oh the humanity.
It started me.
I agree with you but also kid’s in middle school are bullied and they can’t do nothing bout it and take it from me someone who knows ok i know what she went through when your bullied you can’t get out of it and you just want to die… people call it emo but i call it your pushing me or someone to the limit where their thinking or sucicide so for all youh haters go FUCK OFF ok she killed herself cause of the bullies cause you can’t get out of itso i bet half of youh don’t know what me or otha kids are going through..it comes to the point where i got depressed i didn’t eat i’d spen my days in the dark looking at my wall
I agree, but i don’t believe suicide is ‘selfish’ people who feel the need to commit suicide have something wrong with there thinking. It’s not selfish, they just see the world a lot more differently.
are you a friend of her??
Hey… that link doesn’t link to the memorial page.. it links to someone’s profile???
Sorry lol amended
she was such a nice girl, whenever i spoke to her she made me smile, she was always happy and vibrant and its a shame that this tragedy occurred.
RIP daani your in my heart forever.
Sorry for your loss petal
She wasn’t bullied I wean sure she was but thts not why she did that I was close friends with her ily danni
This was very well put, I almost started crying. Good job and I hope the people who contributed to her death feel absolutely terrible. All the things she’ll never get to do now
I wouldn’t say its selfish, but it is stupid.
For people choosing to do it, it seems like the only way to escape. But it is stupid.
I know plenty of religious people who aren’t a afraid to drop a few F-bombs every now and then.
Also, I’m seeing plenty of people show support for her friends and family.
But all this aside, it’s heaps sad when someone takes their own life.
Really? You see religious people telling others to ‘fu**ing die cu**’?
:O
agree completely, no one should ever have to feel the way she did, makes me sick to see assholes trying to say she ‘deserved it’, I didn’t know her personally but I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
i agree with you, i didnt even know her but i knew her sister, she goes to my school right now and its just sad to see people talking to her like that even after shes dead. I dont know the full story of what happened but some people are just mean. It makes me feel sick when they think its cool to bully. Im getting bullied at the moment people say that im a “fat nugget” or i somehow brake the scales and im only 30 on em. F*** you all haters who would put a ” the rope who killed daani sanders is great” ~ Bianca
Well said! I suffered bullying for years at a private school, almost a year has gone by since ive seen any of them, and they still haunt me, i have considered suicide, but i could never do it. This girl did not deserve this, and as you said, she was not old, or mature enough to understand her actions and the consequences. I live my life to the full, i associate with people who are kind, i push the voices to the back of my head and get on with life, and again, Well said!
Thanks and go you! X
haha what a preacher… when you say “i dont give a sh*t” the whole way through this little speech on how everyone should act- you’re exactly the same! or do you feel somewhat above the rest of those people swearing as they make their own arguments and judge what people say (like you do) because you went to a private school… as you said they were able to treat people better but “that was a private school in the country.” I forgot money gives you more morals and authority.
This makes no sense whatsoever. Perhaps you need to learn to read. This would involve you getting an education – public or private.
You have a very warped and naive vision of public schooling.
Really!!!! Pray tell?
Look i don’t know anyone of you at all but i have a daughter my self who is 7 today i neva get to see her but if this happend to her id not be able to keep going anything may have happend to this young girl in her life she may had been hurt in a bad way but just to ashamed of her self to tell any one i work with kids who have been raped molested bashed etc etc and its very hard to just come out and say what has happend in there parst some can block it and move on some just suffer and some end up doing drugs just to help in everyday liveing so before you say something just think on what you say how it affects outhers.
When you started listing the things she will never get to do, that’s true but whose fucking fault is that? HERS. Why take your own life? Everyone gets bullied. It isn’t impossible to get over it. You know people all around the world must have lives worse than she did, and they still hang on.
This is such a pathetic comment, it doesn’t deserve a thoughtful response, or this one actually. STFU.
Exactly she was bullied I meen most people are but thts not why I was her close friend
Um, the thing is… SHE WASNT BULLIED!! And, anyway, it’s doesnt matter why she killed herself, the thing is, she is gone. She killed herself because she couldnt handle it anymore. At least now she is in a safe place now.
I agree completely and 100%, sure, it’s a sad thing that she was in such a situation she thought she couldn’t cope.. But what about the millions of people across the globe who are struggling to survive. Witnessing their loved ones die on a daily basis.. Not to mention the countless children who are left with no other way to survive then to sell their bodies, or slave day and night, to support their families. People in the developed world just don’t understand how tough other people have it. And the worst part is, we are to blame! I for one am blessed every day that my soul was lucky enough to be born in my country.
she wasn’t fucking bullied. all you people have noo idea, the media just said she was bullied to make facebook look bad. yeah okay maybe she was gossiped about a little in those gossip pages but she couldn’t give a shit, it was something else that was a cause for her decision.
I have noticed people keep saying she wasnt bullied .. then why was it she took her life?
Nicely said.
I think this incredible.
I think this is incredible **
**beat
suicide is not stupid or selfish it just a person trying to leave the pain behind get away from the stupid shit that happens.people who only have shit to say like the person saying stuff like, just deal with it people get bullied all the time and they just deal with it ,where does it get you in life is being a immature dickhead what does it do for you make you feel good talking about someone who took there lives because of dickheads like you
Well clearly incest procreated to produce someone like you…
Because that in itself isn’t offensive to incestuous couples or anything. Of course not.
A truly excellent post.
To be fair I know people who have been bullied all through there school life and just ignored and kept their head held high. This girl clearly had no idea what this would do to her family and friends.. She obviously didn’t care about all the things you listed that she couldn’t do. I’ve been through tough times but never once thought about killing myself I’m not a brat and think if life doesn’t go my way f*ck it ill end it… Pathetic. Don’t have any sympathy for a girl who killed herself on purpose. I have sympathy for those who died naturally…
Obviously bullying wasn’t the only reason she killed herself. Two people at my school have killed themselves and you should feel sorry for them. If they have such stuff going on in their life that all they can think of to do to stop the pain is to kill themselves then you should feel more sorry for them than people who died naturally, because they could have led a perfectly happy life but if someone lived that miserably for years then you should feel sorry for them. And maybe she did know some of the things that she would miss and she never wanted to do them if she felt like shit all the time. Sure life is precious but if you’re living a horrible life then it’s not so precious anymore. Maybe killing yourself is a stupid thing to do but you should have some respect for the dead and not call them pathetic or a brat if you didn’t even know them.
You’ve never once thought about killing yourself? Well, lucky you. People are not the same. Not everyone can handle the shit life throws at them. Instead of dismissing her as a stupid, selfish brat (like an alarming number of people have been doing), you should muster up some fucking sympathy for a 15-year-old girl who was miserable enough to think her life wasn’t worth living.
i think what people also need to realise here is that daani was a rather good trampolinist and had many friends in different states and also she had moved to queensland a few months before she ended her life. the memorial pages help those who could not go to sydney for the memorial itself, grieve and send out their goodbyes and love. its a horrible tragedy and I wish people could leave her alone now and let her friends grieve in private. It is a sick thing to bully a young girl, but to continue this on even in her death is a sick and cowardly thing to do. She will never walk this life again and its sad, its not a joke that she is gone, people shouldnt be treating it like it is, even thoguh i Know shes gone, I keep waking up to see it was a big joke. I wish she could see the love she has recieved and all the tears that have been shed over her, to show her she was not alone. I wish we could know why and could have helped her. I wish she had stuck it out too, to see that life gets better and that suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary solution. R.I.P lovely, im so sorry that i’ll never get to know you better now
Daani Sanders was never bullied!!!
The media over-exaggerated everything! Bullying wasn’t the cause of her death. The reason i know this is because im from Cressie, which is her school. The friggin new reporters were snooping around our school fences and based their news on ASSUMPTIONS!
There wasn’t any bullies at all, blame the news reporters, they can go rot in hell!!!!
The people who “Cyber-Bullied” her on her memorial page didn’t even KNOW HER!!!!!! They were internet trolls from 4CHAN, plus they target memorial pages like these anyways.
The page wasn’t even created by a CRESTWOOD STUDENT!!!!
It was created by some other person who prob didn’t know her. You can check the info on the memorial page in Facebook for proof.
You know what ? I am sick of people saying ‘she wasn’t bullied’. Of course the media overexaggerated everything, ITS WHAT THEY DO. But their exaggerations would have been based on something, and she WAS bullied. We all know it was not the ONLY reason for her death, but it was a CONTRIBUTING factor. How the hell would you know if she was bullied or not? You think bullying doesn’t exist? You think it wasn’t there? It was
! Whispered secrets, bags dropped on heads, ‘accidently’ shoving someone to the ground. Ever gotton a facebook message saying you got a wall post and then its been deleted? And the wall post said ‘BITCHWHORESLUTEMOFREAKCREEPFATSOSLAGFATTY’ huh ? What about private facebook messages ? WHAT ABOUT SOMEONE LEANING OVER HER SHOULDER AND SAYING ‘WHORE’. you CANNOT say with 100 % certainty that she was NOT bullied. What about filthy looks and mouthing words? Or ostracism? Exclusion? ‘accidently’ bumping into someone so that their books fall out of their arms? What about following them around the playground? screaming out ‘HEY DANIEE’ just to annoy her? Kicking her in the shins in passing? these are all bullying. I experienced ALL of THEM. Yet if you asked another kid ,from my old school, one that didnt bully me, they would say no, as obviously, would those who did. BECAUSE IT IS UNDERGROUND. IT IS NOT NOTICABLE UNLESS YOUR LOOKING FOR IT, OR UNTIL THE VICTIM SNAPS BACK. or until it contributes the victim’s suicide.
i see what you’re saying but the thing is she really didnt give a crap about bullies. it wasnt a contributing factor, the reason she killed her self was deeper then that and too personal to say here. she wasn’t bullied to the extreme, yes technically she WAS bullied, but is didnt effect her decision to kill herself, that had nothing to do with it. the fucking media got her age wrong and jumped to the first reason they could think of, they didnt actually check to see whether it was real in anyway.
I was on the message board when the post was made that created the wave of trolling of Daani Sanders’ memorial page (I did not participate in the trolling, but did lurk to see what unfolded). When the dust settled, to be honest, the whole thing left me conflicted. On the surface (to most people merely reacting to only the content being posted and not looking for any sort of cause for this type of reaction) it only seems like a bunch of heartless, callous internet tough guys posting remarks, “hiding behind a keyboard”.
In the end I think there is a bigger message behind all of this (I am doing my best to look at things objectively), I think underneath all of this is a sense of resentment. In an age when people are so discconected personally and interact online more than ever before, many have lost the ability to express their feelings properly, and this was prime case of a group of somewhat like minded people expressing (poorly) their own feeling of resentment.
What I witnessed was people that endure and have endured their own bullying (i.e. the people that trolled Daani’s memorial page), each of which have come up with their own coping mechanisms to carry on with their ‘tragic’ lives. Everyday these people get past the things in life that weigh them down and make it through the day. Then they see a young girl that is born with every opportunity in the world: middle class, white (unfortunately in today’s world you still have an advantage being born white, that’s reality, not my own bias) pretty, and has a ridiculous amount of FB friends (I think I heard a figure somewhere around 1200 or so) that was incapable of handling the taunting a few of her FB friends. This girl commits suicide and seemingly the world rushes to mourn her loss.
Trying not to overgeneralize, (but IMO) the people that trolled her memorial page felt like, in “the game of life”, they were dealt a hand where they had to play the game on intermediate level (socially awkward, not one of the beautiful people etc), and others (starving children in 3rd world countries) are playing “the game” on a hard setting, and this girl quits the game (suicide) on easy setting and everyone talks about what a tragedy it is. I am not trying to justify the content of their reaction just trying to explain the impetus for it.
Furthermore aside from the personal resentment, I think there was a feeling of repugnance at whole idea of a “memorial page”. The idea of encouraging “grief tourism”: people that had never known or met Daani (and had no idea about why or how she died) posting on this board to express condolences. On the surface it is easy to write this sort of behavior off as empathy or some sort of communal healing process. This is a point where I apologetically agree with the disdain of the trollers (while not agreeing with their methods of expression): but there is something at it’s core that is seriously wrong when there is a memorial page that people who know nothing about the circumstances of this girl, make a point to post and express whatever they have to say. To me it is the internet equivalent of a person lurking at a funeral home for the express purpose of participating in the grieving process. As bad as the comments were that were made by the trollers, I can understand their anger in response to such comments as “Daani, I didn’t know you…You are so beautiful…you are in a better place…God has new angel” The point isn’t the validity or sincerity of these statements, but the fact that they are coming from complete strangers, lurking (in the equivalent to an an online wake) and referencing back to “the game” and this girl that quit on “the game” when seemingly she was playing on one of the easiest settings.
In closing I don’t condone the way the trolling happened (and once again, I didn’t participate), but I am also not so sure that the people who trolled weren’t justified in their feelings (regardless of the manner they chose to express themselves) I think that maybe we should try to look beyond the content of what was posted and try to figure out why these people where compelled to react this way (healthy or not). It would be unfortunate if we lost more of our young people, who seemingly already feel a little lost already. When a child is too young to tell you when they have to go to the bathroom, we don’t punish them for making a mess in their pants, and by extension when people grow up in an age when the rules for social interaction are continually evolving and they are ill equipped to express themselves properly, maybe this is a time when we all should try to figure out a reason for their behavior and bridge that gap in communication….
Yeah, we don’t need a bloody essay. And your defense about trolling, makes you seem like a troller. People were writing nice things because WE ARE ALLOWED TO!!!! So shut up mrs negative.
Go back under your bridge TROLL and go eat some goats
TBrink, I agree. There is nothing negative about what you wrote, nothing to indicate that it was a troll. It was well thought out, well written – no cussing at all!, and you even went to extremes to make sure you didn’t tread on anyone’s toes, and yet it seems you trod on someone’s toes. I see nothing negative about what you have written, in fact if anything, it’s written with a strong neutral quality.
My sister died in a car accident, it was tragic, I was devastated, but if some random stranger came up to me and said “I don’t know your sister, in fact we never met, but she was such a beautiful soul. Heaven has another angel, may she rest in peace” is that really worth anything? It doesn’t make me feel any better, it doesn’t do anything for anyone, unless the random stranger gets a warm fuzzy feeling from it.
And Kelly, I agree that suicide is selfish. Death is tragic and sad, and it’s a shame that this young girl died, but that doesn’t change the fact that suicide is a selfish act. It allows you to escape ‘pain’ at the cost of all the people around you. Especially in this day and age where there are so many resources, help lines, forums etc. to help you through those tough times. And judging by the flooding of support to her family, she had many people who loved her, who would have done so much for her in her time of need.
so pretty much she allowed imaginary people to push her over the edge. people who could have easily been silenced by not visiting certain sites. the true people to blame are the parents, her so called friends and everyone else in her personal life. every last one of you are to blame.
maybe us people that didnt know daani, have been in the same situation that her family and friends r going through now, not everyone is heartless in this world….. i mean yes there are other people out there that was/are in the same situation as daani and did/do pull through but there r also others that didnt nd dont have the strenth to, noone new wat was going through her mind when this incident accured only one that new was daani. its not nice to lose a child/friends orfamily for that matter so yes people who didnt know her (me being one of them people) but we have a right to send our condolences to daani and her family………..im not having a go at anyone that wants to have a say but i do want to say that we all need to have RESPECT!!!!! for this young girl and her family nd friends at this hard time, just think if it was one of your family memebers or friends would u sit bak and let people write bad things about them?????? i definatly know that i wouldnt.
have you sat and thought that they made these pages about daani to try and make people realise wat bullying can do to people???? my point is Daani was a very young girl who will never have the chance to live life or do the things she dreamed of doin, my heart goes out to all her family and friends and hope that there is a way we can stop the bullying to help mothers/fathers family nd friends in the future to not have to go through wat they are going through right now……….
you know they only do this because nobody will hangout w/ them & they’re so pathetic that can’t even get somone they know to interact w/ them through the normal veues like chat. They are so desperate for interaction & so obviously socially inept that they do this ” poke the bear ” behavoir untill someone interacts w/ them . The best way to get these sad , desperate morons to shut up & go away is to simply ignore them completely, not even a message like this which I’m sure will give them at least a little jolt. This is my only message like this & my last. Just some perception from an outside view looking in. R.I.P. Little Angel Danni. The earth can’t afford to keep losing those big, bright eyes & the beauty through which they were displayed.
so very sad i cant believe people think she deserved it we pray for you Daani xxxxxxx
i didnt know Daani but i know her in my heart R.I.P We love you Daani xxxxxxxxxxxx
We created a monster…
Fuck.
This is stupid, whats done is done. let the dead lie dead.
The only problem I have with your response is that you call them “stupid westies”. I have looked all over the pages, and trust me, there are also foreigners trolling those fan pages. I am from the west myself, and only a minority of people in my area act like that.
However I do agree with the rest of what you’ve said.
I’ve been in the same situation that Danni’s friends and family are going through, i lost my best friend because of suicide. No one knows why they do it all we know is that they have their own reasons and no one should be trying t findout why they did it, what’s done is done and it can’t be reversed no matter how much we want them back. It sucks that we lose a lot of young people every year but it can be stopped so before you post a harsh comment, or insult someone think about how you would feel if the roles were reversed and you were the one getting bullied. I send my condolences to Danni’s family and friends, i know it hurts a lot right now but eventually you’ll be able to think about all the good tmes with Danni and not cry instead you’ll be laughing and smiling. Trust me it get’s easier, time heals all wounds<3.
Nicely said, it’s just so sad that these “trolls” have to make fake pages like cowards as i can only imagine what myself, and others, would do to them if people knew who they really are.
I would just like to point out 2 matter of interest.
1) she went to my school, i can tell you bullying did not play much (if any) of a role. Parental abuse possibly did, but the “final” reason for her actions was because she was being dragged away to QLD (permanently) without getting to say goodbye to her friends.
i shal leave it up to individuals to make of this what you will.
2) i disagree with what the author said about what Danii did to you being irrelevant. Although it may not be hugely important in this case, Danni herself bullied the sister of one of my friends. I believe that my friends sister has some reason to feel resent, despite the current climate. THIS DOES NOT EXCUSE the horrible things being posted. but be aware some people may feel resentment.
okay, im trying to be nice. I can understand that she bullied to. But i hope you can understand my point in saying that there is no way you could know the extent to which she as bullied? yes you went to her school, yes you knew her, etc. but alot of bullying is underground, and while it may not have been the whole reason for her death, it as a contributing factor. her being bullied does not condone her bullying your friend, but nothing condones any bullying. I just wanted to point out that you cant know how big a role bullying played in her death. My own best friend had no idea the extent of the bullying i experienced until i told her.
i understand what you are saying but dani actually didnt care about bullies. if you knew her, you would see, she was one of those girls that didnt really care what others thought. i personally do not think that bullying was a contributing factor and it was deeper and something no one will ever get and not completely what neutral said, in fact, she shouldnt have said anything.
Me and her talked about things and bullying wasn’t a part of it
I’m so glad you brought up the public vs. private school debate. Do you feel ever so privileged that your parents had enough money to send you to such a school? Do you feel better educated and superior to those who had no choice then to go to a private school? I agree with everything else you said above. But WHY oh WHY do kids with families with money think they are so much better then a poor kid who is born into a struggling family? Sorry this is just a bit of a rant but it’s something that I really feel strongly about, and I needed to get off my chest. Also, ‘stupid westie’.. Let’s not discriminate on where a person is from also.
Read Me…
Well said Lisa. Kelly’s post read well, until she let us know that she thought she was “better than others” as she attended private school. I don’t believe Kelly has realised, but she also is taunting/bulling people on here with her responses. “Learn to read.”. It might be minor, however, it is still a form of bullying. Well done Kelly! *rolls eyes*
why was the “public vs private” even brought into this post? dani went to a private school too
Well said! Ur right! The family don’t need ppl making rude or patronising statements about their daughter! The the people who bullied her can never take back the things they did to hurt her and they will feel the guilt for the rest of their lives however if you are one of those people who did this to her you can learn from this! Please please please learn from the guilt and don’t let this happen to anyone else or their family!
YOU are so full of schit!Let people send their condolences and keep yours to yourself
Part of me wants to bite my tongue given the good coverage of cybercrime and abuse of minors online that my nieces death has brought, but the cynic within has won out and I just have to say; she wasn’t bullied, and was an extremely popular girl with lots of friends. She’d have laughed her arse off at all the summerfag’s trolling, knowing they were derps living in their mothers basements who’d sell their kidneys just to say hi to such a gorgeous girl in person.
What failed her was the mental health system in Australia and the fact that a child over 13 must consent to be given any form of mental health evaluation which is patently absurd. The trolling started when a hater changirl forced an /i/nvasion on /b/ of her various memorial pages and youtube tributes, the reaction of the afforementioned ‘westie scum’ fed the trolls so it snowballed.
Danni comes from a very affluent Sydney family, she went to a private school, had a loving family, and was going to be in the upcoming olympics from what I heard, as she was a very accomplished athelete. The tragedy of her death sent shockwaves through the Hills district and greater Australian community on many different levels, that along with the fact she is absolutely stunning just compounded the tragic nature of events that led to her death.
You’re right, the family and friends don’t give a fuck what’s said online positive or negative, but I’m sure those ‘westie scum’ saying fluffy things are doing it to make themselves feel better, but hey, it’s not hurting anyway so let them have their silly inane banter. But you hit the nail on the head entirely; one thing we should definitely take away from this lesson in life is we all need to stop, take a look at where we’re at, and do a better job of living.
Ps: Don’t slag out on the author of this blog post or give them a hard time. You’re just proving your own insecurities. Danni wouldn’t have cared, so why should you? Everyone is entitled to an opinion, and that’s what blogs are about aren’t they? Just relax, accept the merits of the bloggers post, and if you want to add to the ‘westie scum’ butterflies and rainbows commentaries, hit up her memorial page at: http://www.facebook.com/pages/In-Memoriam-Daani-Sanders-19072011/211922065524874 who knows, might make you feel a little better.
I’ve been where she was when she killed herself, it was only a miracle of coincidence that someone intervened. Bullying is a serious issue. I’m not saying it’s the right thing to do. But I do understand what she was feeling at the time. I understand going to sleep every day wishing I could wake up and be someone else. From there it turned to me not wanting to wake up at all. In a way, I committed a spiritual suicide in middle school. I don’t remember ANYTHING from the 8th grade. Those who knew me say I didn’t talk, I didn’t look anyone in the eye, and I’d end up with mysterious injuries. I healed, life went on but I still woke up everyday disappointed that I woke up at all.It wasn’t until almost a year and a half later that I had some success. I had friends for once. Seeing what they endured just being my friend, first felt good, but then made me feel guilty and lower than filth. I tried to cut all ties with every one. Then my adopted father died. I started cutting, drinking, lopping off all my hair, wearing nothing but dull grays, blues, or black. I didn’t want to stand out, I hid. Then I got (literally) slapped with reality. My friends stuck by me. We are still friends today, 9 years later. We all went through that horrid spell of depression that nearly killed us. I’m lucky, I survived, Daani Sanders didn’t. I think that though her death was tragic and her life was so short, her death should mean something, I think there should be a “safe zone” training for all teachers, coaches, nurses, shelters, ect. They should be trained to see the signs of depression, and be trained to handle the situation.
going through what I have has made my life’s goal more attainable, I want to be an art teacher. Kids always express them selves when they are allowed to be creative. Their art can speak whole volumes that they don’t know how to express other ways.
So sad… I don’t know who this is, but I’m 15 myself. It’s so horrible to see someone take their lives because inconsiderate, immature, and mean human beings feel the need to bring beautiful people, like Daani, down. It’s sad, pathetic, and it makes me think of the thousands of people that bully on the internet…
These people, should not ruin Daani’s memory. Jealous is the ugliest trait. Sander family, I’m so deeply sympathetic and i give my condolences.
Rest in peace, you beautiful, beautiful girl.
Well said!
This is a lovely article, and so very true, but sometimes when your depressed its so hard to get up and about in the morning, and sometimes people CAN’T see the “light at the end of the tunnel”
Until you’ve been there, you can’t say anything about it
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Something i’ve learnt from my 12 years on this earth-Got nothing nice to say? then shut up all together! if you’re not reading websites like these to comment and SUPPORT the people who were around Daani, dont bother even VISITING memorial websites! by writing rude comments you’re just hurting everyone so much more! no matter what the reason for her taking her life, anyone who doesnt show even the slightest amount of compassion clearly has no heart! i didnt even know Daani, and im certainly not going to say “it’ll get better in time” coz i may only be 12, but i’ve lost some people close to me aswell and trust me, IT DOESNT GET BETTER, but i just want to wish the best to people who knew her and hope that perhaps “in time” the wounds start to heal. i know they’ll never completly go away, but maybe…in time…they’ll get alittle better <3
your so fucking rude, go comite suicide yourself if i means nufifnk, and none of your familyt are gonna care about you COZ YOU’D BE DEAD!
Hello Dannii was my gradaughter, full of fun and I just love her till the day I die, I am sure she could be as bitshie as the next one, but she had the most beautiful heart you would ever find. I love her so much. Patsy
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Well , i dont know her , never have , i just wanna say , RIP …
I do not have anything negative to say about her,i actually think she may have had undiagnosed bipolar ( i have bipolar so i know a thing or two about it) If it’s the case then taking her own life dose not surprise me as alot of bipolar suffer’s commit suicide especially young ones and even more to the ones who are undiagnosed,having bipolar dose make you different from everyone else,you think differently and you stand out,big highs and shocking lows to your mood occur’s and it’s incredibly difficult to deal with,it’s tragic she was denied mental help when she asked for it and that’s not her fault,seems she was the one let down and it’s unforgivable.
AGREED!<3
How old was she??
she was 14 at the time, exactly one month from her 15th birthday.
my sister was one of her best friends. daani didnt take her life because of bullying. trust me on this. she didnt give two shits about the bullying. anyone who personally knew her or knew someone close to her would understand. it had nothing to do with bullying. and dont ask me for the real reasons because i wont say.
are you her friend.. im so attach of her story.. please msg me at my facebook account.. obpaprille@yahoo.com.. thanks
Because of all these stories about being committing suicide because of cyber bullying it has inspired me to use it as my topic for my senior project. I have went through the same things all of these kids have but I don’t have the courage to hurt myself in anyway.
shes in heaven right now