You May Now Kiss the Bride…..
This time last year one of my best friends ran in to uni after spending her mid-semester break abroad (bitch – I worked). She thrust her hand in our faces presenting a gorgeous diamond ring her boyfriend of 7 years had proposed with on the top of this mountain in Brazil – South America.
Soon after the engagement Vee began to use her impeccable organizational skills to their full potential and become a gale to be reckoned with. I was bestowed the honor of being asked to be a bridesmaid and I can honestly say I have enjoyed every moment of my duties as bridesmaid that have been in accordance. I can safely say that Vee has not been a bridezilla at all and it’s actually been a case of the other bridesmaid and I getting more stressed about different things than Vee did!
A year later and we are on the eve of her wedding day and the past year has been filled with many frustrated tears, pads full of notes, bridal magazines and stressful organizing. But most of all it has strengthened friendships, created new ones, been filled with excitement and of course – filled with love.
After a Kitchen Tea/Bridal Shower was held a few months ago and promptly followed up with a hilarious Hens night involving sketching the below model nude…… the day has arrived in which we can safely say that by tomorrow afternoon Veronica and Jorge will be husband and wife……oh bless.
Now I have leant many things in my year of being a bridesmaid and I thought instead of telling you all of them (as that would literally be a book) I would share just a few;
For the Guests………………………
What to Wear
Wedding Guest Style for Her
• Informal Daytime: Short dress or suit (business attire OK for morning weddings)
• Informal Evening: Cocktail dress
• Semi-Formal Daytime: Short dress or suit
• Semi-formal Evening: Cocktail dress
• Formal Daytime: Short dress or suit. Hats and gloves optional.
• Formal Evening or Black-Tie: Long or dressy short cocktail (beading, glam accessories, wrap)
• Ultra-formal or White Tie: Long gown, extra glitz (furs, diamonds, etc.)
Do’s and Don’ts for Her
• Don’t wear white because it competes with the bride. There are plenty of other colors available.
• Don’t wear black or sequins during the daytime.
• Don’t worry about wearing the same colors as the bridesmaids or mothers. You can’t possibly coordinate with everyone in the wedding party.
• Do wear something feminine and appropriate, out of respect for your hosts. Clubwear, overtly sexy clothing (strapless, see-through, etc) doesn’t belong at a wedding. If you have to ask if it’s appropriate, it probably isn’t.
• Don’t wear opera-length gloves (to top of arm) with anything but sleeveless or strapless gowns.
• Do take off gloves to eat or drink.
• Do use good judgment if the invitation doesn’t specify the formality of the event. A pastel suit or soft floral dress for daytime or a little black dress for evening (after 6 p.m.) will take you almost anywhere.
Wedding Style for Him
• Informal Daytime: Dress shirt and pants, preferably a sports jacket.
• Informal Evening: Suit
• Semi-Formal Daytime: Suit
• Semi-Formal Evening: Dark suit
• Formal Daytime: Dark suit and tie
• Formal Evening: Tuxedo (if invitation states “black tie”) or dark suits if women wear short dresses.
• Ultra-formal Evening or White Tie: White tie, vest and shirt.
Do’s and Don’ts for Him
• Don’t try to get cute with a tuxedo. A black tux with white shirt and black bow tie is the best way to go. If “Creative Black Tie” or “Texas Formal” or some sort of other vague formal description is used, then going with a tux and black shirt, no tie, might be acceptable. Also, trendier cities like Los Angeles and New York might be more accepting of breaking with tradition.
• Do wear a dark suit, with a tie if the wedding is after 6 PM, and doesn’t say “Black Tie.”
• Don’t wear a tuxedo during the day time, regardless of the formality of the event.
• Do use good judgment if the invitation doesn’t specify the formality of the event. A dark suit and conservative tie will take you just about anywhere.
What to bring
• DON’T come empty handed – it’s extremely rude. If you can’t afford an extravagant gift or cheque make them something or bring them a small token of your blessings.
• A sober self – Wedding are (generally) a classy event; it is extremely uncouth to arrive ‘half-cut’ – wait until the speeches are over then dip you head into the ice bucket if you please.
What to do
• Get involved with the bouquet/garter throw. It’s very disheartening for the bride/groom to see ‘too cool’ people casually sitting in their chairs
• Dance – Get involved. Why? See above point.
For the Bridal Party………………………….
• Throw the upcoming bride/groom a FANTASTIC hens/bucks night. They deserve it.
• Help as much as you possibly can – try to make life easier on your friend.
And for the bridesmaids only
• DON’T get fat! The least you can do for your beautiful friend is stay in shape! I was distinctly told a few weeks ago in a stern voice not to put on any weight after my last dress fitting. Fair enough and Vee knows me and my sweet tooth only too well!
• DO help calm the bride. It is possibly the most stressful time in her life to date so be helpful, offer calming words and feed her as the stress is probably making her very bony.
• DON’T bring ANY attention onto yourself (EG Get Engaged) – this is her time. You will have yours.
• DO make sure the bride has the best experience of her life!
For the Bride………………………….
• Get organized EXTREMELY early as time flies
• Don’t invite people ‘just to be nice’ at roughly $150 per head you really should only have people there that you LOVE and that mean something to you.
• Practice Yoga religiously as you get closer to the wedding – it helps relax and calm you
• Enjoy YOUR day !!!
So I hope this has helped a few queries for any upcoming bridal guest, bridal party attendees or brides themselves.
I wish Veronica and Jorge Varela every happiness in the world and hope that tomorrow is all that they ever dreamed of and more.
Have a great weekend readers! I know I will!