Blue Valentine: An Honest Depiction Of A Long-Term Relationship
Gone are the days when movies about love simply represent the ‘happily ever after’ love that only exists because, well, we really don’t want to imagine love in any other capacity. Movies are starting to stretch boundaries with love stories and although many of them still have a ‘happily ever after’ premise, gone are the days when there were poison apples involved and evil ex-girlfriends.
The problem with ‘happily ever after’ is that it generally focuses on a new ‘fresh’ relationship. The couple fall quickly and madly in love, a complication arises that causes one party to walk away and then bam, approx 32 minutes later he or she realises that they love the other main character and they kiss (generally after doing something embarrassing or travelling an equally annoying distance). Then the credits roll. They don’t look at what the relationship is like 6 months down the track or worse, 6 years.
Because if we are honest it isn’t sweet little kisses and happy smiles. It is fights and abandonment and loneliness. (NOT all the time! 🙂 ) The ones that prevail may find snatches of that initial love bubble occasionally and it keeps them hanging on to that dream.
Blue Valentine is the most honest depiction of a long-term relationship in cinema history. The poignant nature of the dialogue and acting was emotionally confronting to watch, which made it feel even more ‘real’.
The premise revolves around a sombre, painful portrait of a toxic marriage, which puts its audience in close, sometimes stifling proximity to a dying relationship. Dean and Cindy (Ryan Gosling *gulp and Michelle Williams) have been married for 6 years. The film pans a 2-day breakdown of their relationship cutting between juxtaposing scenes of the first few weeks spent together. It’s emotionally raw. Its brilliant. It shows that falling in love makes us more drunk than any wine, more high than any drug, and its consequences can result in long-term devastation.
Blue Valentine strives to paint that shadow of loneliness and fear which drives many to marriage – only to find themselves more lonely and afraid than ever. The underlying message from Blue Valentine is that nothing lasts forever. Sometimes love simply fades. Some people find that depressing and some just find it honest.